It’s that time of year when people think about change. The
holidays are behind us and the future looks promising. That
brings us to the ever-popular “New Year’s Resolution”. Many
times resolutions revolve around diets, exercise, and
alcohol and/or substance abstinence. Out of curiosity, I
searched Wikipedia and found the definition of “New Year’s
Resolutions” that talks about making a commitment for a life
style change that is positive. This sounds like something
that should not be taken lightly! Further, planning is
needed to accomplish your goal which Wikipedia defines as a
“psychological process of thinking about activities to
create a desired future”. My question is “How can someone
make a commitment and plan it all within one day?”
Many of us become very frustrated when we “fail”
at our New Year’s Resolutions. My experience is that most
people neglect the planning that is needed before he/she
declares a life style change. Also, we need to accept that
a change does not necessarily need to be “black or white”
and “all or nothing” to be successful. Small moves in a
positive direction allow us to become motivated to continue
taking steps forward. The American Psychiatric Association
says the most important issue is deciding if you are truly
ready and willing to make a change in your life. Don’t set
a resolution because everyone else does. Resolutions can be
made at anytime in your life, not just New Year’s Day.
There is no hurry! Take your time and plan a goal you want
to commit to because you truly want to make a positive
change in YOUR life. Remember, this life style change is
for you!
The University of Maryland offers this advice on developing
and maintaining resolutions:
1.
Avoid Perfectionist Thinking
- Think in positive terms, not perfection
2.
View Setbacks as Lessons for Growth
- Make adjustments to your plan and move forward
3.
Don’t make Absolute Resolutions
- Make Goals Realistic and Attainable
4.
Don’t Keep Resolutions to Yourself
- Share your goals with someone you trust; he and/or she can
be a support
5.
Give Them Some Meaning
- Develop goals to accomplish a change that is positive for
YOU
6.
Take Baby Steps
- Be Patient with Yourself.
Good luck in your endeavors for the New Year. Remember to
congratulate yourself when you reach each small step towards
your commitment for a positive life style change.
